God and Sexual Assault

Separating from Toxic People

It's okay to take care of you.

I think most of us would agree that when we are tired, hungry, or out of energy, we are not our best selves. We are not able to fully be who God intended and share Him with others. We cannot complete our work here on earth if we do not take care of ourselves.

I have mentioned before that even Jesus went aside and prayed to regain his strength. We need to learn to do the same.

Part of taking care of ourselves is to cut out those who are “toxic” to us. There are people we tend to stay connected to for many reasons. I stayed connected to my family and others (including doctors) who were not supportive of my recovery for these reasons:

I was afraid of being alone.

I was afraid of the rejection.

I was afraid that it was yet another failure on my part that I hadn’t kept them in my life.

I was afraid no other doctor would take me on as a patient.

I was afraid….

You kind of see the picture, right? We tend to think that people on this earth will fulfill us and that is simply never going to happen. God will use people to help you and guide you, but ultimately our dependence on Him is all that will get us through.

What I realized is that my fear was of the enemy and that the lies I believed were keeping me in bondage.

I was told that I would never be able to work again, and that I would never be off all the medications I was given to “heal” me. I was told that I was not welcome at one primary doctor’s office after a hospitalization at a psych hospital because I wasn’t the “right fit” for them.

My psychiatrist filled me with lies about how to overcome trauma and what I “needed”, and that medication was the answer. (All the while he was purposely overmedicating me so that I was not able to think for myself…but less I digress that is its own story!)

I was told I was no longer welcome at family Thanksgiving and Christmas because of what I had “accused” them of doing.

I was so afraid of what others would say when I cut out my family. I was afraid that no one would love me.

Fear is what Satan loves to use. He loves for us to be afraid and not depend on God.

So, as I began to cut out those that were abusive to me, toxic and not supportive, or were doing me harm – guess what? My recovery took off. It didn’t happen overnight, but slowly I began to get better -and at a faster rate! (I do have a ways to go, but I have come a long way.)

I began to not have to fight Satan off at every corner through the negative and toxic people in my life. That freed up time and energy from God to do what He wanted – which was beginning to heal. To begin to allow His glory to shine through my life.

1 Corinthians 15:33 says that “Good company corrupts bad character.” It does! I’m telling you that the difference you will see when you surround yourself with God loving, and supportive people, you will find a new strength.

Your attitude will change because we tend to reflect those we are around – and if that’s negative guess what you reflect? Negative.

I encourage you to ask God to help you avoid toxic people in your life – those who are not supportive of your needs and help with what you need as you heal. Don’t let Satan use it to keep you from what God has for you!

Pray with me today:

Father God

Please help me see clearly who I need to cut out of my life to become who you want me to be so that I can heal and share Your love. Thank You for providing for me and help me to trust in You to be my ultimate source and strength so that I don’t “need” to depend on people here on earth. Please bring into my life those who love You and want me to heal and know how to support me.

In Jesus Name,


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2 comments on “Separating from Toxic People


    Susan, I look forward to reading your posts. Your words encourage me and validate many of my own thoughts and experiences. Thank you for your faithfulness in writing and sharing your journey.

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